4 Ways to Practice Gratitude as a Volunteer Manager
This post was originally published on tobijohnson.com.
Have you ever been the lucky beneficiary of expressions of gratitude from clients and friends. Their heartfelt thank you notes really lift spirits during tough weeks.
Have you ever stoped to think about the power of gratitude? How might it be harnessed as a strategy to support the emotional health of volunteer teams?
At times, leaders of volunteers, like other leaders under stress, feel isolated and unappreciated. We look outside ourselves for validation of our work, and if it isn’t there, we become frustrated.
What if we took direct responsibility for changing the mood and culture of our organizations by becoming more grateful? What if we led with gratitude? Would it make a difference in the effectiveness of our volunteer teams? Of our organizations as a whole?
And, if so, how would we get started?
Research has shown that, indeed, gratitude can have a powerful effect on people. It seems particularly suited to volunteerism – a field that is driven by compassion.
Below are some ideas for how gratitude might be tapped for the greater good. What do you think?
1. Start With the Good Stuff
Gratitude, when practiced consistently, has powerful physical, psychological and emotional effects. Anyone can experience these benefits, no matter your age or life situation. Among other benefits, gratitude has been shown to build stronger immune systems, lower blood pressure, inspire optimism and happiness, reduce loneliness, and promote generosity. It also blocks toxic emotions because you can’t feel negativity and gratitude at the same time.
Idea in Action: I’ve worked with volunteer teams that just can’t seem to get over their negativity. Although in some cases, the volunteers’ frustrations may be warranted, it ends up bringing everyone down and is counterproductive to making positive change. To block this toxicity, try starting each meeting or one-on-one encounter by sharing something you are grateful for. If you do this long enough, it will catch on.
2. Step Into Your Volunteers’ Shoes
A belief in the free will of others is what fuels our gratitude. Rather than feeling merely lucky, we feel true gratitude when we believe another person has the option to choose whether or not to help. The greater the sacrifice we recognize in others, the larger the feeling of gratitude.
Idea in Action: I think we all have the tendency to misunderstand or minimize the actual effort it takes for others to help us. This is also true for our perceptions of volunteer effort. Imagine what it takes for a volunteer to set aside time in their calendar, clear their volunteer commitment with loved ones, arrange childcare if they are parents, figure out how to drive or commute to the volunteer site, and often sacrifice time that might otherwise be used for more leisure pursuits.
It’s a lot to ask, no? So, when we appreciate volunteers, we must recognize the entirety of what they had to sacrifice to serve.
If we take time to put ourselves in the shoes of our volunteers, I suspect gratitude for their efforts, as well as ours, will increase exponentially. Instead of complaining that they can’t devote enough time to our organization, we might be better served to be grateful for any contribution of time and effort on behalf of our causes.
One of my consulting clients sends thank you notes to spouses of their volunteer leaders, to thank them for “lending” their significant other to the organization. Through this act, they recognize that volunteering impacts the whole family.
True gratitude means that we acknowledge our interdependence. To be truly transformational, gratitude must be given and received. Gratitude can certainly be expressed. But, if the other person does not, or cannot, fully accept it, it may fall upon deaf ears. Gratitude is, at its core, a collaborative exercise. It’s a social emotion, and its very nature can strengthen relationships.
Idea in Action: Some of us have a hard time accepting thanks, no matter how heartfelt. Due to personality traits, family history, culture, a feeling of obligation, etc., volunteers may feel uncomfortable with your efforts to recognize them.
To keep gratitude flowing, it might help to facilitate a team discussion about gratitude with your volunteers, including an exploration of what might get in the way and why it is helpful to the individual health of each team member and the overall organization.
4. Practice, Practice, Practice Gratitude
Idea in Action: Be mindful about what you’re grateful for – for example, count your blessings on a consistent basis, write in a gratitude journal, practice gratitude for the opportunity to both give and receive, and use grateful language. You can develop a more grateful and happy self. The mindful acknowledgement of things we’re grateful for can become part of a volunteer team’s regular rituals.
Have You Seen the Power of Gratitude in Action?
Expressing gratitude isn’t always easy. It requires us to be vulnerable and persistent in the face of pervasive negativity. It sometimes means that we are the sole voice amidst a culture of entitlement.
But, the focus on acknowledging others has real benefits beyond the fulfillment of a social contract. Research tells us it can be transformational, helping us not only survive but also thrive.
Have you seen the power of gratitude in action? How did it transform the situation? Share what happened in the comments below.